Think about your children when you are in the midst of divorce proceedings. If you have children, they should be your primary concern. They are young and impressionable and may not handle divorce well. You don’t want to see them in tears, hurt, or act out in school or at home. If you both continue to argue in front of them, children are more likely to lash out at you, their siblings, teachers, or friends. When it comes to taking custody of the kids, their behavior may get worse. What can you do ease the situation? You can choose divorce mediation to settle your differences like mature adults, if not for you, then for the sake of your kids. Here is how choosing divorce mediation will help:
1. Divorce Mediation is best for Your Kids
Divorce mediation lets you and your partner focus on the well-being of the kids rather than deciding who the better parent is. Fighting over your children in court or when around them is not going to help them. Day to day, your kids are going to be affected by the on-going situation developing between you and your partner. Divorce mediation will help bring closure to your children, as it will help develop a parenting plan that you both decided together during your sessions.
2. Divorce Mediation is a Neutral Process
The mediator doesn’t pick sides when deciding on custody. The mediator is there just to listen and assist the parties in coming to agreement. After hearing both of your arguments and solutions, the mediator along with you and your spouse will assist you and work out a solution.
3. No One is Blamed
Divorce mediation doesn’t put the blame on one party, as in order for mediation to even work, both partners have to work with each other. Instead of assigning blame, you both will be saying what you both think is the right choice for your kids.
4. Divorce Mediation Focuses on Your Children’s Future
As parents, you both deeply care for your children and wouldn’t want anything to harm them. The only way you would do that would be to create a friendly relationship with each other. Only then are you able to create a stable and loving environment for your children to grow up in.
5. Divorce Mediation Decreases Stress
Divorce for both spouses and a child is a stressful time. Divorce mediation works to reduce that stress by providing you with the proper tools to come to a resolution. Your children will be happy to see their parents going about the divorce with a clear head and less stress.
Gerald A. Maggio is a trained Irvine divorce mediator who has amicably resolved cases many cases out of court, as well as an experienced divorce and family law attorney. Mr. Maggio founded California Divorce Mediators in 2012 with the belief that although “not every marriage can be saved, every family can” and a mission to save families from the financial and emotional distress associated with traditional divorce litigation. California Divorce Mediators is located in Irvine, California, and serves the Orange County area and other counties in California offering divorce mediation, child custody mediation and mediation of other family law matters.